“I Wish I Could Have Had My Son With You Instead”: 53 Secrets People Found On Their Partner’s Phone
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Couples, RelationshipsPublished Jun 26, 2026 “I Wish I Could Have Had My Son With You Instead”: 53 Secrets People Found On Their Partner’s Phone
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It would probably be impossible to go through life without keeping a single secret. We hide certain information about ourselves from others to protect our privacy, avoid unnecessary judgment, and navigate complicated social circles. But if we commit to someone, we sacrifice a bit of that independence. Or at least we should—on the matters that concern the other person.
However, when TikTok user Gessica (@gessicaplessofficial) asked everyone on the platform to share the worst things they discovered on their partner's phone, the replies made it clear that some people aren't ready to do that. Instead, they choose to conceal a side of themselves that could greatly affect the relationship. To show you that you can't truly know what is going on in another person's head until you see what's on their device, we put together a list of the most memorable stories from that thread.
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I was married for almost 40 years. He went to heaven 14 years ago. I am now thrilled the only texts I didn’t like on his phone were when he’d forget to say thanks after asking me to bring home beer. All of y’all’s heartbreaking experiences are why I’m never ever ever trying again.
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Hours after giving birth my husband sent a couple photos of our son to his side chick and said “I wish I could have had my son with you instead”
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Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago That’s dark, dikwad
10 10points reply View more comments #3
Trying to find movie theatres on his phone, I see Stepfather and Stepdaughter [adult videos]. I had two daughters when we got married
sol_from_stardust , Anna Shvets Report
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merlin merlin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 hours ago Run run run
16 16points reply View more comments #4
A girl's [bare] picture, so I made it his screensaver when he woke up
Amber Carson , Liza Summer Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Oooohhh, that’s f*****g funny. 😈😈😈
12 12points reply View more comments #5
Selling pics of himself in my lingerie to MEN off Craigslist 🙃 (this was 2015)
Amanda Mills , Valeriia Miller Report
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Alecto76 Alecto76 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 hours ago If I found out my partner was making money doing this, I'd ask 1) how much he's making, 2) can he make more with different lingerie, and 3) what other lucrative ideas he has.
33 33points reply View more comments #6
My ex had a video of him touching and grabbing his mom's tattas while she was sleeping and she didnt know about it until I showed her. The moment I saw, I broke up with him. there was so much more too
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Oh, yeesh!
6 6points reply View more comments #7
He had a kid with my sister.
Kaileen Shriner , Gustavo Fring Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! I’M DEFENDING THE WIFE.
5 5points reply View more comments #8
a video of him... and his brother...
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Megalodon Meg Megalodon Meg Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 hours ago Well, that's enough internet for today
34 34points reply View more comments #9
Probably this
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Alex Schneider Alex Schneider Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago We all have brain fog sometimes..
14 14points reply View more comments #10
chatgpt with every single conversation we had being typed in so he could get a response to send to me. every single text he sent came from chat, even good morning messages. i was dating a robot
naomi 🍄♓️ , RDNE Stock project Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Wow. 🤯😑😒
7 7points reply View more comments #11
A photo of me in my sleep, we don’t live together and she doesn’t have a key…
kraken the cracker , Ron Lach Report
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Tom Brincefield Tom Brincefield Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 hours ago You think she doesn't have a key.
9 9points reply View more comments #12
We were together for four years. We lived together. I found that he was married and had four children. 🤯 I had met her before. She introduced herself to me as his sister. Apparently they had an open marriage, but we didn’t have an open relationship.
Emily Vasile , Roberto Hund Report
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Janelle Collard Janelle Collard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow Premium 
Premium user. Get details. 12 hours ago Well, you *did* but you didn't know it.
10 10points reply View more comments #13
A picture of him and a girl celebrating their 2 year anniversary… even though we had been together for 8 years
Victoria Phipps , Katerina Holmes Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Seriously? Man, the things i read…
7 7points reply View more comments #14
He was messaging his ex telling her to come over. Worst part was I was in the hospital all alone getting prepped to have a kidney transplant the next morning.
amb3rlyns , Getty Images Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Yeesh. Get your mom, she’ll always be there to punch him. Or your dad.
I was pregnant with our second baby. Recently discussed baby names. He suggested the name of the girl he was DMing
biig.snoww , Anastasiia Chepinska Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Seriously? Ok, dude is done for.
5 5points reply View more comments #16
I was 5 months pregnant and found a message that said ‘congrats to you and Gemma on having a baby’ …..my name isn’t Gemma….but Gemma was 6 months pregnant with him 🫠
Hollie , Natalia Blauth Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Oh….. 🤯
4 4points reply View more comments #17He had a hidden folder in a hidden app and it had MILLIONS no joke MILLIONS of women’s pics (nakey) Including mine while I was asleep… I deleted them all, deleted the app, left before he woke up and never spoke again
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olivejuicedrinker (she/her) olivejuicedrinker (she/her) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago how does one even acquire that many
1 1point reply View more comments #18
Not on his phone, but he had a dresser i was absolutely NOT ALLOWED TO GO IN, it was full of his exes stuff from trinkets to underwear
little.lab.rat7 , Charlotte May Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago SERIOUSLY?
2 2points reply View more comments #19A second family. With a ring. A dog. And a kid on the way. He was living with me and we were having a baby.
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Meyrin Meyrin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 hours ago I've no idea how people manage to handle 2 families I barely manage one and I'm exhausted
24 24points reply View more comments #20Texting another woman while I was asleep (a couple months after having a C-section) telling her “I wish she wasn’t the one next to me”
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KatSaidThat KatSaidThat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 hours ago Wish granted.
4 4points reply View more comments #21Him and his ex were texting and trying to come up with a plan for her to come stay at our house and they were going to tell me they were cousins that just got back in touch
POST Tyranamar Seuss Tyranamar Seuss Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago It's always the "cousin."
6 6points reply #22he texted his coworker “what do you want for valentine’s day” while i was pregnant w our child & he hadn’t even asked me what i wanted for valentine’s day & spoiler i didn’t get anything either 🥹 (not my current man)
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NapQueen NapQueen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 hours ago This is some Love Actually s**t!
1 1point reply #23
he sent an [intimate] pic to his MOM for "approval" before sending the same pic to me. 😒
thewordslinger , Polina Zimmerman Report
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago OMFG
11 11points reply View more comments #24a groupchat with my two best friends talking about how much they hated me 🫶🏻
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Buh-bye, I’m gonna go find new friends…
2 2points reply View more comments #25Was going to say learning he ordered food without me but I’ll keep my mouth shut and sit down.
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Earonn - Earonn - Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 hours ago I tell myself that's what most of us would find. I want to believe!
1 1point reply #26“I’ll find my way back to you” to another girl, one week before our wedding. However, I only found this 3 years later as we were divorcing and he was off spending time ~catching up~ with her. ✨ so, yes! he did in fact find his way back to her!
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Oh, how…. Fortunate.
I found that he uploaded our entire text history into ChatGPT using an extraction app and then asked it to analyze how I communicate and would then paste screen shots of our current messages and ask it “How should I respond to my wife? Make it sound like something I would say.” I found so many messages that I had received that were directly copy/pasted from ChatGPT. I’m basically in a relationship with A.I.
sparcher23 , Airam Dato-on Report
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Senjo Krane Senjo Krane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 hours ago Weird how many there are of this.
7 7points reply View more comments #28
I found him messaging him someone saying he regretted proposing to me. I bought a flight home to my mom the next day
kristenfair8 , Jonathan Borba Report
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Beef Brisket Beef Brisket Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 hour ago What the heck is she holding in her hand? It looks like a d**d pheasant.
3 3points reply View more comments #29He texted a girl asking to chill in his apartment, meanwhile it was MY apartment, I was working extra hours at the time
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He had a notes list about all the things he hated about me 😭 it was three pages long
POST NapQueen NapQueen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 hours ago Well, guess what? That'll be three pages of something that someone will LOVE about you!!
5 5points reply View more comments #31lol not the worst but using ChatGPT as a therapist to vent about how much he missed his ex. 6 years into our relationship.
POST NapQueen NapQueen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 hours ago Well, he couldn't help how he felt and at least he was trying to do something about it.
2 2points reply View more comments #32a video of him and a girl in the backseat of MY car
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Break up with him.
a video of some other chick with a cucumber ON THE HOOD OF MY CAR in the parking lot of the pizza place he worked at.
Hope , Andrea Piacquadio Report
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Sara Frazer Sara Frazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 hours ago If this didn't happen in Florida I'll go outside and swallow a rock
17 17points reply View more comments #34
Cheating on me through call of duty mobile… CALL OF DUTY MOBILE
catgirlcarti , RDNE Stock project Report
POST olivejuicedrinker (she/her) olivejuicedrinker (she/her) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago how??
2 2points reply View more comments #35
A highly detailed Excel spreadsheet of every argument we ever had, color-coded by 'who was right'. I was never right.
Matteo Chelonda , Mikhail Nilov Report
POST Sparky Sparky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
I could see this as a fairly innocent way to release his emotions.
-3 -3points reply View more comments #36
he wrote our vows with chatgpt and told the literal AI to make it less emotional
vic :) , Alexander Mass Report
POST Sara Frazer Sara Frazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 hours ago "No, no, tone down the humanness"
10 10points reply View more comments #37A recording of himself twerking , his very hairy [behind] pics, him finding gay hook ups with old men on reddit and tik tok , convos of the 3 other relationships he was in (1 male, 2 female) and messages between him and his sister gettin nasty
POST Caffeinated Ape Caffeinated Ape Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 hours ago "What is wrong with you and why is there so much of it!?"
7 7points reply View more comments #38
He would respond to bot automated texts or dms thinking they were real
POST Caffeinated Ape Caffeinated Ape Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 hours ago After everything else on this list, this one's almost a relief.
7 7points reply View more comments #39
That he voted for [the current president]… twice.
claudywithachance._ , Getty Images Report
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Lukas (fuck/transphobes) Lukas (fuck/transphobes) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow Premium Premium user. Get details. 11 hours ago Are we actually censoring Trump? I went to the effort of scrolling to find the original comment to see if OP had used a different word to describe him, but no, the comment was "That he voted for Trump… twice." We can't say Trump on BP anymore? He's fucking awful, but really?
16 16points reply View more comments #403 years into our relationship I found a list of reasons in his notes about why he didn't like me 💀
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago 💀😡
1 1point reply #41
We were talking to the same guy.
POST Megalodon Meg Megalodon Meg Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 hours ago So both of you were cheating just with the same person?
11 11points reply View more comments #42
He posted me on his story but hid everyone from it but me 😐
alizelhayward , Helena Lopes Report
POST nottheactualphoto nottheactualphoto Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Posted on his story? What means this?
2 2points reply View more comments #43
I was never allowed to be on his phone. EVER. But I got that “hey girly” text while I was 2 weeks postpartum breastfeeding our son in the living room🥰
Brooke , RDNE Stock project Report
POST #44 Moms: she found a bank statement with a mortgage of about 26k where it listed a house that wasn’t under her name with my stepdad; turns out the house we was in was the his and his mistress’s house…
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Karma Black Karma Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 hours ago Huh? Am I that darn tired, or is this hard to read?
5 5points reply View more comments #45
A video of me crying that he sent to his friends
POST Craig & Vonda Schmidt Craig & Vonda Schmidt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago Cruel
5 5points reply View more comments #46
Pictures of me and my family through our windows
Faith Marie 🫧 , Vitaly Gariev Report
POST Earonn - Earonn - Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 hours ago That would be his family, too, if he was the partner of OP.
0 0points reply View more comments #47
A girl sent a screenshot of her Flo chart it said 3days late
Kelseytherealest , Andrea Piacquadio Report
POST Josh Hart Josh Hart Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 hours ago What does it mean?
0 0points reply View more comments #48Videos of me in the house just living my life not knowing I was being recorded.
POST Senjo Krane Senjo Krane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 hours ago 'nother restraining order
1 1point reply View more comments #49
I told my husband to make the kids grilled cheese when I was leaving.. randomly went on his phone to look something up and saw the last thing he googled was "how to make grilled cheese" 🤦🏼♀️
POST Cerulean Cerulean Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 hours ago It's a legit question! Do you toast both sides first, or just one? Do you add mustard or (😱) mayo? Do you grate cheese or use slices? And he gets points for not asking HER to tell him.
20 20points reply View more comments #50
He was secretly watching The Walking Dead while I was at work. Then would rewatch with me and “predict” what was going to happen. SMH that’s when I lost all trust in humanity. He even won a “bet” when Negan outed Glen.
JovisGarcia , Tima Miroshnichenko Report
POST Earonn - Earonn - Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 hours ago How weak must someone be to cheat like that just for "look how clever I am"? Honestly, I'd get rid of that person just because such weakness will cause problems when something serious comes up.
0 0points reply #51My EX husband decided it was a wonderful idea to drunk text his half sister 😭 Divorce was quick..
POST Senjo Krane Senjo Krane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 hours ago The truth comes out when we get drunk.
0 0points reply #52a Tinder account with a lot to sift through
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Old partner. I hope he doesn't see this but I found his wattpad collection and it was just Undertale. I didn't know he liked Undertale.
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Magnell Magnell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 hours ago I understood partner and collection.. .I'm too old for internet
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Linda van A. Linda van A. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 hours ago Wanting to know everything doesn't make you happy.
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Sweet Sweet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 hours ago My mum passed away suddenly one night. I was 7 months pregnant with my first child. 6 months later I was celebrating my first mothers day as a mother but without my mother, and discovered my husband messaging another woman "happy mothers day beautiful". A similar thing happened when I was pregnant the second time. Finally left him 8 years later.
1 1point reply Rabbit Lord Rabbit Lord Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 32 minutes ago "Oh, I *just* open my partners Phone and found out..." I wonder which of these two persons are more trustworthy...?
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Sweet Sweet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 hours ago My mum passed away suddenly one night. I was 7 months pregnant with my first child. 6 months later I was celebrating my first mothers day as a mother but without my mother, and discovered my husband messaging another woman "happy mothers day beautiful". A similar thing happened when I was pregnant the second time. Finally left him 8 years later.
1 1point reply Rabbit Lord Rabbit Lord Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 32 minutes ago "Oh, I *just* open my partners Phone and found out..." I wonder which of these two persons are more trustworthy...?
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